Melbourne Life: My family

It has been 6 months and I haven't wrote anything in this blog. Too busy dealing with new life with family here, happier than before but busier too. The little girls growing soo fast, Arundati doesn't want to be called as 'my baby' anymore. "nooo, I'm not a baby!' she says. Mutiara is still enjoying her role as a baby, a center of attention among other people, and will smile when we say, 'uhm..you are my baby...'.

Finished this semester with better results for both me and my husband. The most I proud I got H1 with final essay got 86.5% for Environmental Impact Assessment taught by Barbara. Huh...I can't reallly hide it. H1 for EIA. horeee....horeee....My husband know very well how I struggle for this subject until mid term. So H1 for this subject is really great achievement for me. Hip hip hura...hip hip hura....(as Arun said). The bloody difficult subject that create permanent headache for me.

But my husband is bloody smart for get average H1 for his first semester. 'H1 for the first semester. haha...haha...(simpson style).' I will debate him by saying, 'you couldn't get this result if you didn't asked me how to do this how to do that. haha...haha...(simpson style too: I got addicted to Simpson more than Arundati and Mutiara).'

I know if I can get more time to study as much as he got, I'll be better than him. It's my excused but sure that whatever you try to share household jobs between husband and wife, it is always wife who get more that the husband. he will debate it by saying who cook this morning, etc. And I can't answer empirical evidences like that. May be I should keep journals to support my argument that I did most houseworks than him. The journal will report in detail who did what, for how long. Who cook, who clean the house, who must stop study because the little girls want to play with you, who wash (It's always me since the washing machine broken), who take the girls to child care, who must take them to campus when both my husband and I got lectures at the same time, etc, etc...Try to make a long lists for that...:) The results of studying in western country: Always give evidences whenever you argue about something!

As a result, my husband say, I'm much better in argument with him, more diplomatic, more resistant, and louder :) 'Siapa dulu gurunya...' I said, as a teacher you have been succesful in teaching your student for arguments. haha...haha...:) But actually I don't like to argue. I was not born with this talent hehe....Mutiara is likely has the same character as me, she prefer to avoid argument with her sister, at certain point she will be so angry and response something unexpected to her sister, but than regret for what she did, and cry. Just like her mum...My husband always say. But well, in the real world, sometimes you have to argue, to prevent your right or otherwise bad people will do bad things to you because they believe you will not response. I can argue very well in academic setting or in appropriate environment, in my essay, seminar, etc. But I don't like to do this in my relationships with other people. Too much energy wasted for useless argument.

Back to Arundati and Mutiara. They are so happy in child care although mum and dad not happy for paying 800 dollars a month for child care (fortunately I still get family stipend and my husband got scholarship too. How lucky we are :). They learnt a lot of things. Arun is very good in painting. Soo beautiful painting. Hmm...may be she got the talent from the mom. My husband will definitely protest it by saying, 'if it is a good thing it is from the mom. If it is bad thing, it is from the dad...' haha...haha...And she seems have a big love for her mum and dad. One day she says something like this: ...'because...I love you mommy.' Uh, soo beautiful to heard this words from 4 years old little daughter. Sometimes she is jealous to her sister..well sibling rivalry, but she has kind heart too, she always try to protect her sister too.
Muti (now she doesn't call herself Ara but Muti (with t sounds like c) as her teacher usually called her) love dancing. She can't control herself to move her body whenever she heard music. Hmm...it just like her mum too...She is sensitive but a bit stubborn. 'Ha...this is truly like her mum' Says my husband smiling :) But we often amaze with the way she can make other people love her easily. She know very well how to make people love her. We can't ever angry to her, because everytime we were going to angry, she will present in front of us with her face and say, 'are you happy...?'

Ah, amazing to have them here now. Sometimes I complain, too busy, too busy...when I can study...? But truly, they are Arundati (my star) and Chandragati (my moon) who give me a light of happiness in my live. To enjoy this happiness, I need to spend time for them, for their happiness too. I hope my husband and I can learn from last semester experience and do better things for them. We believe that we arrive at this present achievement, partly because of the little girls too. They give me spirits, they give me supports, through their smily face, through their song, through their dance, through something called LOVE.

Talking about achievement, I am happy to got Young Scholar from ANU, and I will back to Jakarta to attend Young Scholar Workshop this december for 3 days, but I will stay there for may be 2 weeks. Semangat!Semangat!